The spoken word is the most powerful weapon in the world. A childhood rhyme says that “words will never hurt me” but nothing could be further from the truth. Words, once said, cannot be unsaid therefore the results of those words can linger far longer than a bruise.
Words can be used to build up or to tear down, to praise or to slaughter, to clarify or to confuse. Since words are so powerful, why do we unleash the most harmful words on ourselves?
Often, we say things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to others. Through our words, we portray ourselves in such a negative way that we force our mindset into focusing on the negatives. Thus we destroy our hopes, dreams and potentially our future.
Here are 5 Words You Shouldn’t Say to Yourself:
1. “I can’t”
Have you tried? Truth is that you might find something difficult but you can do it. Tearing down your abilities begins the process of self doubt.
2. “Why do I always mess up?”
This exaggerated statement can make you fear trying anything. Anytime you use the word, “always” negatively it is an exaggeration. Unless you are saying something like, “I always brush my teeth in the morning”; do not use the word “always”!
3. “Nobody cares about me”
This is drenched in self pity! There are probably more people than you can imagine that care about you. This type of self talk can lead to serious issues with depression. Quickly think of at least 1 person that does care…it will instantly prove this statement false!
4. “They have a better life than I do”
First of all, you only know about the life that people let you see. That person with that amazing life might have huge debt, an abusive relationship, a chronic illness you can’t really see or number of troubles that are hidden from plain view. Stop comparing yourself to others and put that energy into building the life that you want to have.
5. “Life is unfair”
My mom would often ask me, “who told you life is supposed to be fair?”. It is a hard truth, life is hard and it isn’t fair sometimes but placing your focus on it will only make it worse. Put your focus and attention toward the things that will make life better.
Now it is time to turn that negative talk around! The saying, “If you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything at all” doesn’t only apply to the things you say to others-it applies to the things you say to yourself as well.
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