The Power of Words – 5 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Yourself

The Power of Words – 5 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Yourself

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The spoken word is the most powerful weapon in the world. A childhood rhyme says that “words will never hurt me” but nothing could be further from the truth. Words, once said, cannot be unsaid therefore the results of those words can linger far longer than a bruise.

Words can be used to build up or to tear down, to praise or to slaughter, to clarify or to confuse. Since words are so powerful, why do we unleash the most harmful words on ourselves? Often, we say things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to others. Through our words, we portray ourselves in such a negative way that we force our mindset into focusing on the negatives. Thus we destroy our hopes, dreams and potentially our future.

Here are 5 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Yourself:

  1. “I can’t” Have you tried? Truth is that you might find something difficult but you can do it. Tearing down your abilities begins the process of self doubt.
  2. “Why do I always mess up?” This exaggerated statement can make you fear trying anything. Anytime you use the word, “always” negatively it is an exaggeration. Unless you are saying something like, “I always brush my teeth in the morning”; do not use the word “always”!
  3. “Nobody cares about me” This is drenched in self pity! There are probably more people than you can imagine that care about you. This type of self talk can lead to serious issues with depression. Quickly think of at least 1 person that does care…it will instantly prove this statement false!
  4. “They have a better life than I do” First of all, you only know about the life that people let you see. That person with that amazing life might have huge debt, an abusive relationship, a chronic illness you can’t really see or number of troubles that are hidden from plain view. Stop comparing yourself to others and put that energy into building the life that you want to have.
  5. “Life is unfair” My mom would often ask me, “who told you life is supposed to be fair?”. It is a hard truth, life is hard and it isn’t fair sometimes but placing your focus on it will only make it worse. Put your focus and attention toward the things that will make life better.

5 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Yourself - #selfcare #selftalk #positivity #mentalhealth #attitude #chronicillnessWords can be used to build up or to tear down, to praise or to slaughter, to clarify or to confuse. #selftalk #selfcare #mentalhealthNow it is time to turn that negative talk around! The saying, “If you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything at all” doesn’t only apply to the things you say to others-it applies to the things you say to yourself as well.

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36 thoughts on “The Power of Words – 5 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Yourself

  1. I appreciate this post – these phrases sound really negative and can hold people back from achievements. People do care – sometimes, it is hard to see and feel it. However, there are people out there. It’s so bad to compare your life with others. Sometimes, you don’t really know what’s going on even though things may seem great. Thanks for sharing these ♥

    Nancy ♥

  2. I studied linguistics in college during my undergrad years (it’s been a long while since then), nonetheless, I remember distinctly our study of sociolinguistics and how very much the semantics (meaning) of a word can change the entire impression and experience of one’s life. You can look at the Bible in the same way – much of the wild interpretations of it are based on how a secondary language translates from the original language in which the Bible (Dead Sea scrolls) were written. As you can see, looking back on history and present day, the language of such a text transformed the experiences of people all over the globe. Language is very much powerful and by knowing that, we can hopefully aim to treat ourselves better with the language we use in our own minds.

  3. I have been practicing not saying these kind of words to myself lately, as a part of my self care routine and transformation. I hope more people realize the big impact of this against their health, and be inclined more to the other side! Great post! :))

    Ellaine | In Betweens

  4. Great post! I totally agree with all of these, especially the “they have a better life than I do” one. It’s so easy to look at another person and think they have it all, when it really isn’t the case

  5. This is so perfect! I have a terrible habit of the ‘I can’t’ wording, chronic illness makes it so easy to think that, but you are completely correct. I was always taught ‘you only cant if you don’t believe’, which is along the similar lines. IF you try, you are capable of everything you want to do in life.x

  6. Hey there, thank you for writing this helpful post. I think at the end of the day, we are all guilty somewhat for being lost in cognitive illusions – the ‘I can’t’ or ‘I must’ or ‘I should’. Like you said, words are important, and being aware of negative habits and language is one step to happyt life!

  7. I’m very good and saying those things to myself, most of my life I have been very hard on myself and am still learning to change old patterns that have done me a lot of damage, thanks for joining in with #ABloggingGoodTime

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