How Chronic Illness Ruins Friendships
Your friends invite you for dinner and game night…you are so excited about it. You plan you day around it. You make sure to save your energy, so this time you won’t have to cancel like many times before. It is going to feel so good to get out of the house. It is going to feel amazing to be a part of something.
But then it all gets ripped away.
It all starts by that bright light in your vision that leads to all the things that stop you in your tracks. Go to an event? That is silly because you can’t undress by yourself and get back into your pajamas. And you most definitely can’t leave the dark room that you call the cave.
Canceling is hard!
Then you have to muster up the ability to cancel…once again. You lay in the comfort of darkness begging the pain to go away. You are crying because life is going on outside of this dark hole that is swallowing you up. You are devastated because you want nothing more than to be normal again.
You hear the annoyance in your friend’s voice when you call. Eventually you don’t call because texting is a little easier!
You can feel it…your friends pulling away. It isn’t their fault that they don’t know what to do or say. Very slowly you notice the texts stop coming as often until they stop all together. The invitations stop but you know things are going on because the pictures of the fun and happiness is on Facebook for all to see.
This part of Chronic Illness has the hardest to handle. The isolation that chronic illness causes is what makes your life change.
Please keep inviting me. One day I won’t cancel!
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