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2018 Mid-year Review-Lessons Learned

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I think June is a great time to take an inventory of lessons I have learned in the year so far. Although cannot take credit for this revelation because I saw a post like this at ashleighwrites.co.uk. So, go ahead and give her blog post some love, HERE and come back! I liked her idea so much that I decided to do my own mid-year review.

Lessons Learned:

Loosing people you love is hard and grief doesn’t have a timeline.

In November of 2017, my best friend died after a 3 year battle with Stage 4 Breast Cancer. I gave her the morphine to help keep her comfortable as her husband and sisters gathered around her. It was one of the most excruciating and most amazing moments of my life. I had always felt honored to be her friend and I was honored to help her pass with the dignity she deserved. This year began with grief and some days are better than others. I miss her terribly every day.

Learning to prioritize helps ease anxiety.

I used to be able to take care of things without a second thought. Running errands, grocery shopping, grandkids ballgames, household chores… I could get it done! Now, I have to think about what I need to do and think about how many steps are involved in completing the task. I do not have the energy to accomplish a lot in a day and I used to get frustrated. Then my anxiety would rise off the charts. This has taught me to break it all down and accept what I can get done rather than focusing on what is still left to do.

Don’t wait for things to be perfect to check items off of the bucket list.

My husband and I have been talking about taking a trip to Washington, DC for at least 9 years. (Ok, I’ve been talking, he has been listening and he agreed. 😂) Something seemed to keep getting in the way if planning the trip. So, in spite of my health, we have planned it! Plane tickets purchased, hotel reservations made, Museum of the Bible tickets reserved…seriously planned! We are only planning to do 1 thing per day, taking a day with nothing planned but rest and I have already scoped out restaurants that serve food that I can eat. The trip is happening in September so be on the look out for a Travel Blog!

On good days, use your energy to spend time with those you love.

It is very tempting to use good health days to catch up on housework, laundry or errands. Lately, I have changed my attitude toward this. My husband spends most of his home time taking care of me and honestly, on days that I feel good we need me to be a wife instead of a patient. We will go out to eat lunch on a Saturday, we hold hands and look across a table at each other as we enjoy the meal. That simple thing has become precious to both of us. Our relationship is more important than that load of dirty towels and it is my priority!

Lesson, learn, life lessonsThese are a few of the important lessons I have learned so far in 2018. I think they are each really important and enrich my life.

Have you asked yourself what lessons you have learned so far in 2018?





  • Kathy

    I’m so sorry to hear about your best friend. It is incredibly hard to lose someone close you. My mother passed away from cancer when I was 13 yrs old, I had to learn many lessons throughout my life without her. I completely can relate to this post. So happy you have a trip booked and you’re doing it at your own pace. It sounds like you have a wonderful supportive husband. Lots of hugs. Thanks for sharing.

  • Kate

    I relate to this post on many levels…

    (excuse the bullet points)

    *Learning to let go if things aren’t that important or if they aren’t perfect.
    *Not wasting a good day on housework or running errands like a headless chicken (ok, you didn’t mention the headless chicken part).

    General Anxiety Disorder forced me to learn those things. Hopefully someday I’ll be thankful for the lessons.

    Most importantly: you do the talking and the husband listens. Same here.

    Love xoxo

  • Andrea

    I can’t believe we are so far through the year already! Time just flies by and I wish it didn’t go so quick! This was a great post to read. I agree about anxiety and prioritising – I’m learning to prioritise the most important things I want to do first so that they’re out of the way and not causing me anxiety later on! Xx

  • Sharmin

    This was a beautiful post. I think it’s good to reflect on things to help us move forward, so sorry for the loss of your best friend I can’t imagine how that must feel. However, I also hope your trip to Washington DC is all that you’ve been waiting for and more, we look forward to hearing about it! Sending lots of love your way!

  • Casey

    This was such a lovely read! I am so incredibly sorry to hear of your loss. Being there with her must have been a hard thing for you to do, but knowing that she passed in a room surrounded by her loved ones is a happy image in my mind and it must have made her feel safe and very loved as I’m sure she was. I find that seeing things being ticked off of my to-do list motivates me to keep plodding through the list! I hope you enjoy your trip to Washington also, I can’t wait to see your photographs.
    Love Casey xx

  • Cindy

    Jennifer, my heart goes out to you! God bless you mightily in all the ways you need! You spoke to me in this post. Currently, I am blessed with good health, for which I thank my God. What you spoke to me was that relationships—time together with loved ones—is more important than chores. Lol…I’m not one to talk to about chores vs. more important things! My house shows obvious signs of my prioritization! Now that I’ve stepped up promotion of my blog, most of my time is spent on my computer! Things like preparing images, making pins for FB, Pinterest, Twitter, all of which have different dimension requirements; keeping up with BTC and other social media—for my blog—and for me, personally; let alone, creating new projects and writing tutorials about them for my site (besides my Critter Care pet sitting/horse care and few-hours-a-week P/T job. My husband and I take the weekends as our time together. I so treasure these times—not because we do such great things—but, because we get closer each time we spend several leisure hours together…just being together. As God leads and provides, I look forward to trips together. God is in charge; He knows our ages—and our finances! His timing is perfect, and He is our “banker”—and I have to trust Him, and I believe that this year is our year to go forward in a noticeable way. Thank you for sharing your heart. It touched me.

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