Here is an example of a text that was sent to my by a friend, “Praying the Lord will continue to place a miraculous healing touch on your life”. On the surface there is nothing wrong with this text. In fact, before I got sick 2 years ago, I probably would have sent a text very similar to this one.
So, what is missing? Two very important things:
- Compassion – There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling someone that you are praying for them. Let’s be honest, I need all the prayers I can get. But, when a text like this is sent without asking how you are doing, it feels very cold and distant. The text showed no compassion for me or my well being. Especially since I had gotten the exact same text from the same person 4 days earlier. It just felt like the person was going through the motions…”ok, now she should feel loved and encouraged for the day”.
- Empathy – By definition, empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. No one is going to be perfect at this one…I don’t expect perfection. But it would be a breath of fresh air if someone would at least try. Maybe at the end of that text if it said, ” I don’t understand exactly what you are going through but I am here if you need me”. WOW what a huge difference that could make in my life.
Like I said before, the text above is exactly the types of texts I would have sent to someone before my chronic illness changed my life. I have learned a lot through the pain and isolation I have experienced.
One of the main reasons for starting this blog is to use my experience to educate others. . I would be betraying that mission if I didn’t speak out about ways to love and nurture others that may be battling illness.
Honestly, we can all use more love, compassion and empathy in our lives and sometimes the text just needs to be more than 1 sentence.